Many of you are already familiar with my son Kyle’s obsession with regular-flavored M&M’s so it probably comes as no surprise when I tell you Kyle’s deprivation of M&M’s are pretty much the only thing these days that triggers a violent toddler temper tantrum in him!
So what do I do when my child “freaks out” and loses all control?
Here’s an easy guide to coping with a toddler temper tantrum I’ve used successfully when my kid turns into a werewolf:
1. Understand what a temper tantrum is; it’s a reaction usually triggered by frustration when children don’t “get their way.” Keep in mind it can also occur when children aren’t getting enough attention, when they’re experiencing a physical problem such as a stomach ache, or simply because they’re tired and/or sleepy.
2. You can try to avoid your toddler having a temper tantrum if you know what triggers the tantrum by distracting them with another object or simply changing the subject.
3. Try your best not to become angry. If you lose control it’ll make their temper tantrum more intense and it’ll probably last much longer. Take a few deep breaths and retain your composure. Stay fairly close to them but don’t touch them unless you believe they’re in danger of hurting themselves, and talk to them in a normal tone while firmly explaining what you expect and how there will be consequences for their behavior.
4. Once the toddler temper tantrum has run its course, calmly restate what you expect from the child and explain to them their behavior was unacceptable. Of course they’ll have a temper tantrum in the future, but if you continue planting a seed by letting them know what’s expected, you’ll have a huge head start in helping your child lessen, or git red of temper tantrums.